Following a romantic three year courtship, Emily and I were married in the spring of 2000. Our courtship climaxed with a surprise wedding in Manhattan - my wife and her best friend spent two full days being pampered in the Plaza Hotel, riding carriages through Central Park, and shopping the wonderful boutiques of New York City.

When she arrived at the pristine Rockefeller built chapel to be married, she was greeted by over 40 of her closest friends and family members who unbeknown to her, had made the trip from around the country to be a part of this fairytale wedding. Months of planning and secrecy paid off for me when my dream of a girlfriend accepted my marriage proposal and an hour later became my bride. After leaving our penthouse suite at the Plaza we spent a glorious week on the beaches of Cancun, Mexico and then settled back into life in Nashville, TN.

I haven't figured out whether it was the “I don't have to impress her anymore” mentality, the pressures of providing for a family, the desire and need to be successful in a career, the inability to say “no” to one more commitment, meeting the demands of children, or just plain laziness and lack of creativity - but somewhere on the backside of “I do” the majority of romance disappeared for us, just as it does for many couples.

I haven't talked to many men, or women for that matter, who seem excited about the loss of passion, desire and romance in their marriage, but I haven't found many either, who have taken a proactive approach to changing their circumstance. Somehow maybe we start to accept the idea that marriage dulls the senses and therefore lethargy becomes normative.

Let me assure you that I, for one, was not content with a normative marriage if it meant not seeing and experiencing the same passion I saw in my wife in our dating relationship. After all, isn't it true that for most of us passion was the key ingredient in determining a life partner? So, I chose to change the course of our marriage by being disciplined about showing my wife how much I loved her. Did she know I loved her? Yes. Did I tell her I loved her? Yes. Did I consistently show her that I loved her? No.

This ministry is an invitation to you - to join me in the noble and Godly quest of loving our wives. If there's one thing I've found to be true, it is that stirring the heart of a woman offers unequivocal joy and is relatively easy to accomplish. With a little discipline, a little vulnerability, a little creativity, and a little help from your friends at SOS4Men.com, you can become the Romeo for whom your Juliet is yearning.